What is Patience?
I’m an online Quran teacher. Today’s lesson was on Surah Yusuf. Beautiful as the story is, I just can’t help explaining too much of everything. :D
So today, the part came where Yaqub (AS) was informed of his beloved son Yusuf (AS)’s fake death. And the way he reacted.. SubhanAllah!
قَالَ بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ ۖ وَاللَّهُ الْمُسْتَعَانُ عَلَىٰ مَا تَصِفُونَ
He said: “Nay, but your ownselves have made up a tale. So (for me) patience is most fitting. And it is Allah (Alone) Whose help can be sought against that (lie) which you describe.” [Yusuf: 18]
Patience. Good patience.
Ah! It just leaves me speechless. (Read more on the background of this situation to get a better understanding. Consult Tafsir Ibn Kathir)
I looked at my Tafsir notes taken last year from Dr Farhat Hashmi’s lectures and this is the definition I found:
Patience: to hold yourself back, to not react.
Good patience (صَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ): to hold yourself back in such a way that you don’t complain, taunt, cry about it anymore.
And I was like.. WOW! Could any other definition be more perfect?
It’s like I learnt the meaning of the word today.
We think if we forgive a person, we can’t forget the wrong he’s done to us. And we’ll keep reminding him of it, directly or indirectly. We’ll tell others about it to humiliate him. And so on..
But guess what? This is NOT patience.
Forgiving + forgetting is the key. They both come in a package. :)
And if you aren’t motivated enough to forgive AND forget, check this:
“Yes, if you hold on to patience and piety, and the enemy comes rushing at you; your Lord will help you with five thousand angels having marks (of distinction).”
( سورة آل عمران , Aal-e-Imran, Chapter #3, Verse #125)
Those will be rewarded with the highest place (in Paradise) because of their patience. Therein they shall be met with greetings and the word of peace and respect.
( سورة الفرقان , Al-Furqan, Chapter #25, Verse #75)