Monthly Archives: October 2015
Guest post by Madiha Akhtar
Once my husband said, “Whenever you find yourself in a conservation, try to take something beneficial from it, something that can help you”. I know it sounds philosophical but the application that I saw him practice is what makes this a golden rule to live by. Let me explain further with examples.
I went to visit my grandparents and my husband accompanied me. After asking the usual questions of “how are you and kids, health, job” etc., my grandfather started to talk about his travel experiences. Right after that my husband asked him, “What do you think was their greatest strength and weakness?”. I looked at his face and then at my grandfather’s and was totally indulged in the way my grandfather explained what he found key to their success. A whole new paradigm of discussion opened up which was both interesting and beneficial.
So here is how he does it. In every gathering he asks questions which are related to the topic as well as the knowledge of the audience. This is the ultimate trick to learn from others’ years of experience. Let me share with you some more examples.
In a gathering of moms you can ask the question, “What is the single most important thing that one can give to their children?” or to a grandmother, “What is the one thing you never compromised on when it came to your children?”.
When accompanied by someone who loves cooking , “What is the simplest yet nutritious dish you make?”. In a group of friends, “How do you handle the situation when your husband is angry but you don’t know the cause?”.
So my dear friends, this is the key to learning. Now I enjoy having conversations and even making small talk with strangers when waiting in a queue or reception as I have found a way to tap others’ wisdom. Lastly, I will add just one more thing that most of the sins related to tongue are because of excessive talking and sometimes to avoid an awkward silence in the drawing room, we end up talking uselessly. SO THINK AHEAD!
Volume 4, Book 53, Number 367 :
Narrated by Jubair bin Mutim (radiallaahu `anhu)
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) talked about war prisoners of Badr saying, “Had Al-Mutim bin Adi been alive and interceded with me for these mean people, I would have freed them for his sake.”
Mut`im ibn `Adi was a non-Muslim. His son, Jubair ibn Mut`im, however, did convert to Islam. Why did the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) say such praiseworthy words about him? For more than one reason, actually. He did more to support Islam and its followers being an idol worshiper than most Muslims at the time. He provided support during the social boycott in Makkah and after the incident of Ta’if when Abu Lahab had disowned the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), not allowing him to come home.
For more, watch the video below: