Wrote this piece for Dr. Kanwal Kaisser to be published on the website made by herself and her team about parenting kids, named Hamaray Bachay. It’s been a while since this has been on their website so I thought I’d post it here too. You can find it under the tab of “Youth Talent Corner” on their website.
So how do you behave?
When your child comes home…
After a long active day
With all those stories to be told!
He doesn’t need your money
Not even a single dime
He just wants some love
And a few minutes of your precious time
But if you can’t even give that
Then you must be really rude
So when you watch him turn
Into a dude with attitude
You start getting angry
And you wonder why he’s so rude?!
You start asking yourself questions like
Where did I go wrong?
I taught him about Allah and His Prophet
But he hangs out with girls and listens to songs!
And when he starts to earn
Then he starts to ignore
Comes late every night
While in your sleep you snore
Then when you get old
And start getting pension
You’ll have everything
But not his attention
And then you’ll start to see
What your child really needed
He needed your attention
While you only feeded…
And if this made you see your life in flashes
You better start working on those minor clashes
Instead of thinking on why the conversation never starts
Bow down to Allah, the turner of hearts
He sends astray whom HE wants
And guides whom HE wills
Start praying for your child right now
So with love and mercy your hearts, He fills
And it all comes back to
How one behaves
Because Allah is not merciful to those
Who are not merciful to His slaves!
When we’re offering Salah, our attention should be focused on the conversation we’re having with Allah (SWT). (Yes, you’re supposed to know what you’re saying!)
Anything that diverts your attention from Allah, should be removed. It can be uneasy clothes, too colorful/embroidered clothes, designs on the prayer mat etc. Prophet (SAW) got rid of the clothes which diverted his attention from Salah. (Takes courage!)
the Prophet prayed in a Khamisa (a square garment) having marks. During the prayer, he looked at its marks. So when he finished the prayer he said, “Take this Khamisa of mine to Abu Jahm and get me his Inbijaniya (a woolen garment without marks) as it (the Khamisa) has diverted my attention from the prayer.”
What, then, do you think of those thoughts that flood your mind when you’re ‘reciting’ the Salah? What’s a good way to get rid of them?