Ahadith 2642 – 2643 (below) are repeats. Read the related post here.
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 246 :
Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (radiallaahu `anhu)
Umar bin Al-Khattab (radiallaahu `anhu) gave a horse to be ridden in Allah’s Cause and then he found it being sold. He intended to purchase it. So, he consulted Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) who said, “Don’t buy it and don’t take back your gift of charity.”
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 247 :
Narrated by Aslam
I heard ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab (radiallaahu `anhu) saying, “I gave a horse to be ridden in Allah’s Cause and the person who got it intended to sell it or neglected it. So, I wanted to buy it as I thought he would sell it cheap. I consulted the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) who said, “Do not buy it even if for one Dirham, because he who takes back his gift is like a dog swallowing its vomit.”
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 248 :
Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (radiallaahu `anhu)
A man came to the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) asking his permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) asked him, “Are your parents alive?” He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said to him, “Then exert yourself in their service.”
Many things can be said about this, evidences brought from Quran and Sunnah to prove further importance of this hadith.. but I’ll mention here a story or two of the sahabah and their way of honoring and serving their parents. We hope and wish to be as dutiful as they were. May Allah make us more like them in all aspects of the deen.
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Dinaar from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar that a man from among the Bedouins met him on the road to Makkah. ‘Abd-Allaah greeted him with salaam, seated him on the donkey that he was riding and gave him a turban that he had been wearing on his head. Ibn Dinar said: We said to him: May Allaah guide you, they are just Bedouins and they would be content with little. ‘Abd-Allaah said: The father of this man was a friend of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab and I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The best act of kindness is for the son to uphold ties (of friendship) with those who were his father’s friends.” Narrated by Muslim, 2552.
According to another report narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: when he went out to Makkah, he had a donkey which he would ride when he got tired of riding his camel, and a turban which he tied around his head. One day whilst he was riding that donkey, a Bedouin passed by him. He said: Are you not So and so, the son of So and so? He said: Yes. He gave him the donkey that he was riding and said: Ride it. And he gave him the turban that he had been wearing on his head, and he said: Tie it around your head. Some of his companions said: May Allaah forgive you, you have given this Bedouin a donkey that you used to ride when you got tired of riding your camel and a turban that you used to wear on your head. He said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The best act of kind of kindness is for a man to honour his father’s friend after he has died,” and (this man’s) father was a friend of ‘Umar.
Abu Hurayrah was appointed in charge of Madeenah by Marwaan. He lived in Dhu’l-Hulayfah (approximately ten kilometers from Madeenah) and his mother lived in one house and he lived in another. When he wanted to go out he would stand at her door, and say: Peace be upon you, O my mother, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And she would say: And upon you, O my son, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And he would say: May Allaah have mercy on you, as you brought me up when I was young. And she would say: May Allaah have mercy on you as you took care of me when I grew old. Then when he wanted to come in, he would do likewise.
[Taken from IslamQA]
Most of us, if not all, have parents alive today whom we take for granted. We think they’ll always be there to listen to our rants and tantrums, give in to our wishes sacrificing their own and make life better for us in every way possible. What we fail to do is imagine a world without them, to realize that there’ll come a time when they won’t be there anymore.. their comforting voice, their soothing touch and their reassuring presence – all gone. Yes, we’ll probably live to see that day when they’ll breathe their last. We might even be there holding their hand at that moment feeling devastated but unable to do anything about it. We fail to imagine all that and so we fail to serve our parents to the fullest while they’re alive and with us. We fail to honor them and to be dutiful to them as they deserve to be honored and obeyed. And hence we fail to succeed in the best of all jihads: parents.
Hadith no. 2490 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 95 :
Narrated by Abu Said Al-Khudri (radiallaahu `anhu)
Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) ascended the pulpit and said, “Nothing worries me as to what will happen to you after me, except the temptation of worldly blessings which will be conferred on you.” Then he mentioned the worldly pleasures. He started with the one (i.e. the blessings) and took up the other (i.e. the pleasures). A man got up saying, “O Allah’s Apostle! Can the good bring about evil?” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) remained silent and we thought that he was being inspired divinely, so all the people kept silent with awe. Then the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) wiped the sweat off his face and asked, “Where is the present questioner?” “Do you think wealth is good?” he repeated thrice, adding, “No doubt, good produces nothing but good. Indeed it is like what grows on the banks of a stream which either kills or nearly kills the grazing animals because of gluttony except the vegetation-eating animal which eats till both its flanks are full (i.e. till it gets satisfied) and then stands in the sun and defecates and urinates and again starts grazing. This worldly property is sweet vegetation. How excellent the wealth of the Muslim is, if it is collected through legal means and is spent in Allah’s Cause and on orphans, poor people and travelers. But he who does not take it legally is like an eater who is never satisfied and his wealth will be a witness against him on the Day of Resurrection.”
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 96 :
Narrated by Zaid bin Khalid (radiallaahu `anhu)
Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “He who prepares a Ghazi going in Allah’s Cause is given a reward equal to that of) a Ghazi; and he who looks after properly the dependents of a Ghazi going in Allah’s Cause is (given a reward equal to that of) Ghazi”
Volume 4, Book 52, Number 97 :
Narrated by Anas (radiallaahu `anhu)
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used not to enter any house in Medina except the house of Um Sulaim (radiallaahu `anhaa) besides those of his wives. When he was asked why, he said, “I take pity on her as her brother was killed in my company.”
We are often faced with restrictions and limitations when it comes to spending our time and/or efforts in Allah’s Cause. We’re either busy with other obligations or bound by (lack of) availability of means. Well here’s a good news for us: if we support those who are active in the Cause and their dependents, we get the same reward as them. This is by analogy, of course.
Sadaqah has various levels and ranks. If you give some money to a poor person, it’s a very good deed indeed. But if you spend that money on a student of knowledge, the rewards are huge! You get rewarded for sadaqah, and you get the reward equal to the student because you’re supporting him, and later on when he starts teaching, you get rewarded for every single person he benefits. And the cycle continues. This is sadaqah jaariyah. Is it not a better option?
Narrated Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
(the wife of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) We set out with the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) in his last Hajj and we assumed Ihram for Umra. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) then said, “Whoever has the Hadi with him should assume Ihram for Hajj along with ‘Umra and should not finish the Ihram till he finishes both.” I was menstruating when I reached Mecca, and so I neither did Tawaf round the Ka’ba nor Tawaf between Safa and Marwa. I complained about that to the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) on which he replied, “Undo and comb your head hair, and assume Ihram for Hajj (only) and leave the Umra.” So, I did so. When we had performed the Hajj, the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sent me with my brother ‘Abdur-Rahman bin Abu Bakr (radiallaahu `anhu) to Tan’im. So I performed the ‘Umra. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said to me, “This ‘Umra is instead of your missed one.” Those who had assumed Ihram for ‘Umra (Hajj-atTamattu) performed Tawaf round the Ka’ba and between Safa and Marwa and then finished their Ihram. After returning from Mina, they performed another Tawaf (between Safa and Marwa). Those who had assumed Ihram for Hajj and ‘Umra together (Hajj-al-Qiran) performed only one Tawaf (between Safa and Marwa).
Know more about the types of Hajj so it’s easier to understand the itsy bitsy details.
Every time I come across this incident, I just marvel at the caring husband that the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) was. He could have easily told `Aa’isha (radiallaahu `anhaa) to just let it be and make sure to not come for Hajj during her menstruation. He could have been irritated with her. But he wasn’t. He didn’t say any reproachful words to her (“You and your problems! -_-“, for example..). Rather he sent her with her brother especially so she could complete her manaasik. And he reassured her that her missed `Umrah had been covered for. Considerate he was. :)
Wrote this today, after getting frequent “Mother’s Day” texts. Seriously, where was this love the whole year? -_-
I don’t know what’s up with everyone today;
Calling, texting, emailing, saying “Happy Mother’s Day”
If you really love your mom then stop trying to prove it;
One day to show your love? That’s really kind of stupid;
Just ONE day for your Mothers, do you really think that’s fair?
Throwing her out of home to live alone, so that’s how much you care!!
As Muslims, we should love our mothers every single day;
Stay humble and polite, no matter what she might say;
Cuz we know what she went through,
To make us what we are today;
Remember when you had that exam?
She stood up all night to pray!
One day is not enough,
And don’t even ask why!
SHE used to stay awake,
All those nights you used to cry!
She sacrificed her joy for what?
So YOUR life you could enjoy!
Every time you got hurt,
SHE was the one to cry!
She put aside her own wishes,
Just to buy YOU that toy!
Now you get angry at her “stupidity”
Like your questions never used to annoy?
They say Paradise lies beneath a Mother’s feet;
So put that expression of love on repeat;
As Allah says in Surah Al-Isra:
“And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say,
“My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.””
So do that, and tell her that you love her, every single day;
Cuz even if you do that… HER love, you cannot repay!
Once I saw Allah’s Apostle at the door of my house while some Ethiopians were playing in the mosque (displaying their skill with spears). Allah’s Apostle was screening me with his Rida’ so as to enable me to see their display.
(‘Urwa said that ‘Aisha said, “I saw the Prophet, and the Ethiopians were playing with their spears.”)
One word: aww! :)
Also, the story doesn’t end here. Other narrations tell us that ‘Aisha (RA) was resting her head on Prophet (SAW)’s shoulder. Prophet (SAW) kept standing so ‘Aisha could enjoy the display fully. He once asked her if she was done, and she replied with no. He kept standing there without a word. Only when ‘Aisha felt tired and had enough, did the Prophet (SAW) move from his place.
That’s the example Prophet (SAW) left for the husbands of his Ummah. He treated his wives with such care and love that none of today’s ‘perfect couples’ stand a chance in comparison with him.
O followers of the Prophet (SAW), try following him for real. Men, treat your wives with respect, love and kindness. Women, narrate this Hadith to your sons and brothers [or husbands ;) ] so they can treat their wives nicely too. InshaAllah. :)