While I was walking with ‘Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu) he said, “We were in the company of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and he said, ‘He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.”
Sexual desire is something that has been created in man and it cannot be got rid of. Getting rid of it is not something that is required of the Muslim; rather what is required of him is to refrain from using it in haraam ways, and to use it in the ways that Allaah has permitted.
Halaal way: get married. If you can’t, fast. It’s going to help you resist the desire inshaAllah.
How to resist sexual desires? Read about the 2-step solution to this problem here.
Is there any benefit in resisting/breaking this desire? Read an interesting approach on this subject here.
Narrated Ibn Umar:
The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “Allow women to go to the Mosques at night.”
Narrated Ibn Umar:
One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the ‘Isha’ prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great ghairah (self-respect). She replied, “What prevents him from stopping me from this act?” The other replied, “The statement of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) : “Do not stop Allah’s women-slaves from going to Allah’s Mosques” prevents him.”
Similar Ahadith here.
How often do we give in to Allah and His Messenger (SAW)’s commands? When we want one thing and Shari`ah wants something else from us, what do we give preference to? Our desires or the Deen?
You see, Umar (RA) disliked her wives going to the mosque too often, but he never forbade them because of the statement of Allah’s Messenger (SAW). He had THAT sort of control over himself. Like wow!