Intimacy of Marriage [Hadith of Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu)] (Hadith No. 1805)
Hadith no. 1801 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 306:
Narrated Abu Hazim:
I heard Sahl bin Sad (radiallaahu `anhu) saying, “A woman brought a Burda (i.e. a square piece of cloth having edging). I asked, ‘Do you know what a Burda is?’ They replied in the affirmative and said, “It is a cloth sheet with woven margins.” Sahl (radiallaahu `anhu) went on, “She addressed the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and said, ‘I have woven it with my hands for you to wear.’ The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) took it as he was in need of it, and came to us wearing it as a waist sheet. One of us said, ‘O Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! Give it to me to wear.’ The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) agreed to give it to him. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sat with the people for a while and then returned (home), wrapped that waist sheet and sent it to him. The people said to that man, ‘You haven’t done well by asking him for it when you know that he never turns down anybody’s request.’ The man replied, ‘By Allah, I have not asked him for it except to use it as my shroud when I die.” Sahl (radiallaahu `anhu) added; “Later it (i.e. that sheet) was his shroud.”
Ahadith 1802 & 1803 (below) are repeats. Read the post here.
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 307:
Narrated Abu Hazim:
Some men came to Sahl bin Sad (radiallaahu `anhu) to ask him about the pulpit. He replied, “Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sent for a woman (Sahl named her) (this message): ‘Order your slave carpenter to make pieces of wood (i.e. a pulpit) for me so that I may sit on it while addressing the people.’ So, she ordered him to make it from the tamarisk of the forest. He brought it to her and she sent it to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) ordered it to be placed in the mosque: so, it was put and he sat on it.
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 308:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu):
An Ansari woman said to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), “O Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! Shall I make something for you to sit on, as I have a slave who is a carpenter?” He replied, “If you wish.” So, she got a pulpit made for him. When it was Friday the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sat on that pulpit. The date-palm stem near which the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to deliver his sermons cried so much so that it was about to burst. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) came down from the pulpit to the stem and embraced it and it started groaning like a child being persuaded to stop crying and then it stopped crying. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said,”It has cried because of (missing) what it use to hear of the religions knowledge.”
Hadith no. 1804 (below) is also a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 309:
Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) bought food grains from a Jew on credit and mortgaged his armor to him.
Intimacy of Marriage [Hadith of Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu)]
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 310:
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu):
I was with the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) in a Ghazwa (Military Expedition) and my camel was slow and exhausted. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) came up to me and said, “O Jabir.” I replied, “Yes?” He said, “What is the matter with you?” I replied, “My camel is slow and tired, so I am left behind.” So, he got down and poked the camel with his stick and then ordered me to ride. I rode the camel and it became so fast that I had to hold it from going ahead of Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). He then asked me, have you got married?” I replied in the affirmative. He asked, “A virgin or a matron?” I replied, “I married a matron.” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “Why have you not married a virgin, so that you may play with her and she may play with you?” Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu) replied, “I have sisters (young in age) so I liked to marry a matron who could collect them all and comb their hair and look after them.” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son).” Then he asked me, “Would you like to sell your camel?” I replied in the affirmative and the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) purchased it for one Uqiya of gold. Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) reached before me and I reached in the morning, and when I went to the mosque, I found him at the door of the mosque. He asked me, “Have you arrived just now?” I replied in the affirmative. He said, “Leave your camel and come into (the mosque) and pray two Rakat.” I entered and offered the prayer. He told Bilal (radiallaahu `anhu) to weigh and give me one Uqiya of gold. So Bilal (radiallaahu `anhu) weighed for me fairly and I went away. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sent for me and I thought that he would return to me my camel which I hated more than anything else. But the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said to me, “Take your camel as well as its price.”
Every time I come across this Hadith, I can’t help but be more and more grateful to Allah and His Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) for giving us Islam and its knowledge. It is due to the frankness of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), and him opening up his private life that we know our bedroom etiquette. In other religions like Christianity, for example, it’s discouraged to even feel sexual desire. How unnatural and lame is that? :/
To understand this Hadith best, I advise you to go through this article by Yasir Qadhi, which is a summary of his online course (Like A Garment) that he offered a while ago. It is well-explained and direct, may Allah reward him for sharing it with us.
Why did Imam Bukhari include this hadith in the Book of Sales and Trade? Because it mentions selling of a camel. :)
Jabir (RA)’s Father (Ahadith 1133 – 1135)
Volume 2, Book 23, Number 432:
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
The Prophet said, “Allah has made Mecca a sanctuary (sacred place) and it was a sanctuary before me and will be so after me. It was made legal for me (to fight in it) for a few hours of the day. None is allowed to uproot its thorny shrubs or to cut its trees or to chase its game or to pick up its fallen things except by a person who announces it publicly.” On that Al-Abbas said (to the Prophet), “Except Al-Idhkhir for our goldsmiths and for our graves.” And so the Prophet added, “Except Al-Idhkhir. ” And Abu Huraira narrated that the Prophet said, “Except Al-Idhkhir for our graves and houses.” And Ibn Abbas said, “For their goldsmiths and houses.”
Hadith no. 1131 (above) is a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 2, Book 23, Number 433:
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah:
Allah’s Apostle came to Abdullah bin Ubai (a hypocrite) after his death and he has been laid in his pit (grave). He ordered (that he be taken out of the grave) and he was taken out. Then he placed him on his knees and threw some of his saliva on him and clothed him in his (the Prophet’s) own shirt. Allah knows better (why he did so). ‘Abdullah bin Ubai had given his shirt to Al-Abbas to wear. Abu Harun said, “Allah’s Apostle at that time had two shirts and the son of ‘Abdullah bin Ubai said to him, ‘O Allah’s Apostle! Clothe my father in your shirt which has been in contact with your skin.’ ‘ Sufyan added, “Thus people think that the Prophet clothed ‘Abdullah bin Tubal in his shirt in lieu of what he (Abdullah) had done (for Al Abbas, the Prophet’s uncle.)”
Hadith no. 1132 (above) is also a repeat. Read it here.
About Jabir (RA)’s father..
Volume 2, Book 23, Number 434:
When the time of the Battle of Uhud approached, my father called me at night and said, “I think that I will be the first amongst the companions of the Prophet to be martyred. I do not leave anyone after me dearer to me than you, except Allah’s Apostle’s soul and I owe some debt and you should repay it and treat your sisters favorably (nicely and politely).” So in the morning he was the first to be martyred and was buried along with another (martyr). I did not like to leave him with the other (martyr) so I took him out of the grave after six months of his burial and he was in the same condition as he was on the day of burial, except a slight change near his ear.
Volume 2, Book 23, Number 435:
A man was buried along with my father and I did not like it till I took him (i.e. my father) out and buried him in a separate grave.
Volume 2, Book 23, Number 436:
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah:
The Prophet collected every two martyrs of Uhud (in one grave) and then he would ask, “Which of them knew the Quran more?” And if one of them was pointed out for him as having more knowledge, he would put him first in the Lahd. The Prophet said, “I will be a witness on these on the Day of Resurrection.” Then he ordered them to be buried with their blood on their bodies and he did not have them washed.
- Digging up the grave of a deceased person – not allowed. There are certain conditions in this matter. Read this for details.
- Burying two persons in the same grave – not allowed, unless it’s a necessity (as was after Uhud). Details to be found in the link above.
- Does the Earth disintegrate the bodies of martyrs? Some say yes, some say it was exclusive to the martyrs of Uhud only. And Allah knows best.
- How to advise your son about dealing with affairs after your death? Learn it from Abdullah (RA) [Jabir (RA)’s father]:
“I do not leave anyone after me dearer to me than you, except Allah’s Apostle’s soul and I owe some debt and you should repay it and treat your sisters favorably (nicely and politely).”
- He was leaving behind his whole family, but he asked Jabir (RA) to take care of his most beloved person – Prophet (SAW). <3
- He was worried about the debts that he hadn’t paid yet. Seems like he was way too eager to meet Allah, and that too, after finishing all worldly matters.
- He admonishes Jabir (RA) to take care of his sisters afterwards.
Note that Jabir (RA) was about seventeen years old at that time. Respecting his father’s wishes, he married an older woman, hoping that she’ll be like a mother to his sisters. He was young, he could’ve married someone his own age, to enjoy his life. And that’s exactly what Prophet (SAW) said to him..
Jabir b. Abdillah reported that once he was on an expedition with the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and when they were close to the city of Madinah, he sped on his mount. The Prophetsalla Allahu alayhi wa sallam asked him why he was in such a hurry to return home. Jabir replied, “I am recently married!” The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam asked, “To an older lady or a younger one?” [the Arabic could also read: “To a widow or a virgin?”], to which he replied, “A widow.” The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, “But why didn’t you marry a younger girl, so that you could play with her, and she could play with you, and you could make her laugh, and she could make you laugh?” He said, “O Messenger of Allah! My father died a martyr at Uhud, leaving behind daughters, so I did not wish to marry a young girl like them, but rather an older one who could take care of them and look after them.” The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa salam replied, “You have made the correct choice… Jabir said, “So when we were about to enter the city, the Prophet salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallamsaid to me, ‘Slow down, and enter at night, so that she who has not combed may comb her hair, and she who has not shaved may shave her private area.’ Then he said to me, ‘When you enter upon her, then be wise and gentle.'”
[Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim]
The Levels (Hadith No. 255 & 256)
A lot of similar Ahadith regarding ghusl/bath have been coming lately so I’ll talk about a different aspect today inshaAllah.
Volume 1, Book 5, Number 255:
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah:
The Prophet used to pour water three times on his head.
To get details on this Hadith, read this.
Volume 1, Book 5, Number 256:
Narrated Abu Ja’far:
Jabir bin Abdullah said to me, “Your cousin (Hasan bin Muhammad bin Al-Hanafiya) came to me and asked about the bath of Janaba. I replied, ‘The Prophet used to take three handfuls of water, pour them on his head and then pour more water over his body.’ Al-Hasan said to me, ‘I am a hairy man.’ I replied, ‘The Prophet had more hair than you’. “
Details related to the ghusl-aspect here.
I’m sure many of us won’t be able to accept the fact that taking bath/shower from 5 liters of water is enough for a person. And three handfuls of water for the hair? No way! We can come up with a number of excuses and reasons why this Sunnah is not for us. And no one will judge us, right?
But look at Sahabas’ (companions of the Prophet (SAW)) reaction to such excuses. That man said he had extra hair so three handfuls of water might not be enough for his head. And Jabir (RA) shuns him right there, saying that Prophet (SAW) had even more hair than you. Implies that such excuses will not be tolerated.
I notice two things here:
- People did voice their opinions at that time, even if they somehow went against the Sunnah.
- Companions were very strict about following and implementing the Sunnah. They could tell people the right thing and not be afraid of reaction. They knew the importance of the message they were delivering and they were confident about it.