Volume 3, Book 43, Number 635:
“We were in Medina with some of the Iraqi people, and we were struck with famine and Ibn Az-Zubair used to give us dates. Ibn ‘Umar (radiallaahu `anhu) used to pass by and say, “The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) forbade us to eat two dates at a time, unless one takes the permission of one’s companions.”
When we’re sharing food with someone, you can’t have more than what they’re having. If they take a bite, you take an equal bite. If you want a bigger one, seek permission. And that’s how you share food!
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 295:
Narrated Abu Mas’ud (radiallaahu `anhu):
An Ansari man, called Abu Shu’aib (radiallaahu `anhu), came and told his butcher slave, “Prepare meals sufficient for five persons, for I want to invite the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) along with four other persons as I saw signs of hunger on his face.” Abu Shu’aib (radiallaahu `anhu) invited them and another person came along with them. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said (to Abu Shu’aib), This man followed us, so if you allow him, he will join us, and if you want him to return, he will go back.” Abu Shu’aib (radiallaahu `anhu) said, “No, I have allowed him (i.e. he, too, is welcomed to the meal).”
- It is allowed when inviting people to specify a number and there is no harm or awkwardness in doing so. We find this today on many wedding invitations, where the host writes down the number of guests invited as ‘admit’. There are those that say if we specify a number on the invitation then we are stingy. However, it might just be that the host is poor and needs to specify a number so that he does not burden himself with more than what he can afford to offer for the occasion.
- It is also allowed for a person to follow a person or a group of people who are invited, for the reason of attaining food. This is evident in the Hadith as the Holy Prophet (Peace Be upon Him) did not stop the sixth person from following him, but the final decision still rests with the host on whether or not the follower is allowed to join in the meal.
- In this Hadith there is evidence to show that if someone comes with you that were not invited; you should obtain permission for that person to join, especially if you are not sure if the host invited you for a specific reason that only concerns the two of you.
- There is also proof from this Hadith that there is no harm or awkwardness from the side of the host if he does not give permission for the follower to join them. The reason is because if there was any harm in doing so, the Holy Prophet (Peace Be upon Him) would not have asked permission from the host for the sixth person to join them. This serves as proof that the host has a choice to either permit him to join or send him away.
- There should also be no discomfort if you asked someone permission to visit him or her and that person refused by saying: “Please return home as I am busy at the moment”. The host has the choice either to permit you to enter or to ask you to leave.
Unlike some people, if they seek permission to visit and the person says: “Please return home as I am busy at the moment” they feel upset and uncomfortable. One should try not to have such type of ill feelings. We must remember that people have duties and responsibilities in there homes. It might be that they have other matters to see too. One should rather condition oneself to leave with all ease and comfort as this is more pure for us as Allah Almighty says: “And if it is said to you, “Go back”, then go back; it is purer for you.” [Quran 24:28]
Taken from Fiqhul Hadith.
Hadith no. 1773 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.
Narrated Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu):
A caravan arrived (at Medina) while we were offering the Jumua prayer with the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). The people left out for the caravan, with the exception of twelve persons. Then this Verse was revealed: ‘But when they see some bargain or some amusement, they disperse headlong to it and leave you standing.” (62.11)
Charity of a Woman: Does she need her husband’s permission?
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 279:
Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “If a woman gives in charity from her house meals without wasting (i.e. being extravagant), she will get the reward for her giving, and her husband will also get the reward for his earning and the storekeeper will also get a similar reward. The acquisition of the reward of none of them will reduce the reward of the others.”
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 280:
Narrated Abu Huraira (radiallaahu `anhu):
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “If a woman gives something (i.e. in charity) from her husband’s earnings without his permission, she will get half his reward.”
There is nothing wrong with a woman giving charity from her husband’s wealth if he has given her permission to do so. This permission may be explicit (verbal), such as if he says to her: “You can give such and such of my wealth in charity, or whatever you wish.”
Or this permission may be implicit, such as if people ordinarily agree to such things or it is known from her husband’s attitude that he will agree to that and will not object.
In that case there is nothing wrong with her giving charity from her husband’s wealth, and she will have the reward for that charity as will her husband too.
But if he does not allow her, or if she knows that he would not agree to that, then in that case it is not permissible for her to give anything from his wealth in charity.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: Is it permissible for a woman to give charity from her husband’s wealth on her own behalf or on behalf of one who is dead? He replied:
It is well known that the husband’s wealth belongs to the husband and it is not permissible for anyone to give charity from the wealth of anyone else except with his permission. If the husband has given her permission to give charity on her own behalf, or on behalf of whomever she wishes among her deceased loved ones, there is no sin on her, but if he has not given permission then it is not permissible for her to give anything in charity, because it is his wealth and it is not permissible to take the wealth of a Muslim without his consent. End quote.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (18/472)
Taken from IslamQA
Note: There’s nothing wrong with a woman spending of her own wealth without her husband’s permission. She can spend it where she thinks it proper and do charity from it, and there’s no harm. Although it’s better to consult him and ask him of his opinion to make him feel good and important, according to the scholars. But when it comes to dealing with her husband’s wealth, she can spend of it whatever he allows her to. If he is stingy, she can take from it without his permission whatever is sufficient for her needs. And as for charity from her husband’s wealth, she needs his permission.