Volume 3, Book 41, Number 591 :
Narrated by Al-Mughira bin Shu’ba (radiallaahu `anhu)
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “Allah has forbidden for you, (1) to be undutiful to your mothers, (2) to bury your daughters alive, (3) to not to pay the rights of the others (e.g. charity, etc.) and (4) to beg of men (begging). And Allah has hated for you (1) vain, useless talk, or that you talk too much about others, (2) to ask too many questions, (in disputed religious matters) and (3) to waste the wealth (by extravagance).
The Difference between “Forbidden” (Haraam) and “Hated/Disliked” (Makrooh):
Makrooh in Arabic means the opposite of liked or loved.
In the terminology of sharee’ah it means that which the Lawgiver asks us not to do, but not in a definitive manner. It may be said that it means that for which the person who does not do it out of obedience will be rewarded, but the one who does it will not be punished.
Haraam in Arabic means forbidden.
In the terminology of sharee’ah it means, that which the Lawgiver requires us not to do, in a definitive manner. Haraam is the opposite of halaal (permitted). A person will be rewarded for not doing that which is haraam, if he does so out of obedience, and not out of fear, shyness or the inability to do it; in those cases he will not be rewarded for not doing it.
Keeping all this in mind, we’re all in big trouble when it comes to being dutiful to our mothers! May Allah make us more obedient, respectful and loving towards our parents.
Narrated Abu Huraira :
The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “The best charity is that which is practiced by a wealthy person. And start giving first to your dependents.”
Narrated Hakim bin Hizam
The Prophet said, “The upper hand is better than the lower hand (i.e. he who gives in charity is better than him who takes it). One should start giving first to his dependents. And the best object of charity is that which is given by a wealthy person (from the money which is left after his expenses). And whoever abstains from asking others for some financial help, Allah will give him and save him from asking others, Allah will make him self-sufficient.”
- Best time to give in charity: when you’re wealthy.
- Best people you can spend on: your family.
- Upper hand is better the lower hand (giving is better than taking).
- No begging for financial help.
Similar Hadith here.
Hadith no. 861 is a repeat. It’s about one of the questions that we’ll be asked in our grave. Must read!
No doubt the Prophet ordered people to manumit slaves during the solar eclipse.
Manumitting (freeing) slaves is sadaqah (charity). It’s one of those things that Prophet (SAW) did or ordered to do during eclipse. See here.
There’s no slaves today (as far as I know) that we can free as sadaqah, but there’s a lot more that we can do. And we’re talking monetary sadaqah. Any examples you can think of?
Feel free to share!
Narrated Sa’d bin Abi Waqqas:
Allah’s Apostle said, “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.”
My personal experience: men don’t think spending on their families will bring them any reward. Isn’t that weird. To me, it is!
Like we discussed in yesterday’s post, spending on your own family is also rewarded as charity. It only needs to be for Allah’s sake though. Sincerity is a condition.
Another important thing today’s Hadith tells us is: the quantity doesn’t matter. Even if it were a morsel! Meaning, you don’t need to be rich to do charity. If you have on date, and you eat half of it and share the other half with someone, that’s also sadaqah/charity! Quality will be in your intention and that will determine your reward. :)
Thinking of doing some extra sadaqah/charity in these golden days (Dhil-Hajj)? Spend on your family!
Hadith no. 51 is a repeat. Read it here.
Narrated Abu Mas’ud:
The Prophet said, “If a man spends on his family (with the intention of having a reward from Allah) sincerely for Allah’s sake, then it is a (kind of) alms-giving in reward for him.
Would you believe it? Even spending on family is charity! For a man, this is something understood. That he is supposed to provide for the family. He would consider it a duty and wouldn’t expect a reward for something he ought to do. (If I was a guy, I wouldn’t. Because it sounded really strange to me when I read it.)
If you’re thinking: I’m not a man, how does this Hadith apply to me? Well, simple answer. Anything that you do as obligation can become charity for you. The food you cook at home for your family, the clothes you wash, the cleaning that you do etc.
BUT, the condition needs to be kept in mind. Doing it sincerely for Allah. NOBODY else! Not to prove something to your parents, not to show off to friends or make someone jealous. Do it only for Allah’s sake and you’ll get the reward, inshaAllah. :)