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Remarrying One’s Ex-Wife (Hadith No. 2305)

Bismillah.

Hadith no. 2304 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.

Volume 3, Book 48, Number 806 :
Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar (radiallaahu `anhu)
Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and Ubai bin Kab Al-Ansari (radiallaahu `anhu) went to the garden where Ibn Saiyad used to live. When Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) entered (the garden), he (i.e. Allah’s Apostle) started hiding himself behind the datepalms as he wanted to hear secretly the talk of Ibn Saiyad before the latter saw him. Ibn Saiyad wrapped with a soft decorated sheet was lying on his bed murmuring. Ibn Saiyad’s mother saw the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) hiding behind the stems of the date-palms. She addressed Ibn Saiyad saying, “O Saf, this is Muhammad.” Hearing that Ibn Saiyad stopped murmuring (or got cautious), the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “If she had left him undisturbed, he would have revealed his reality.”

Today’s Hadith:

Volume 3, Book 48, Number 807 :
Narrated by Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa)
The wife of Rifa’a Al-Qurazi came to the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and said, “I was Rifa’a’s wife, but he divorced me and it was a final irrevocable divorce. Then I married AbdurRahman bin Az-Zubair but he is impotent.” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) asked her ‘Do you want to remarry Rifa’a? You cannot unless you had a complete sexual relation with your present husband.” Abu Bakr (radiallaahu `anhu) was sitting with Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and Khalid bin Said bin Al-‘As (radiallaahu `anhu) was at the door waiting to be admitted. He said, “O Abu Bakr! Do you hear what this (woman) is revealing frankly before the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)?”

If a man divorces his wife with the first or second talaaq, once her ‘iddah is over she is divorced and becomes a “stranger” (non-mahram) to him; she cannot go back to him except with a new marriage contract which fulfills all the conditions set out in sharee’ah.

But if he divorces his wife with the third talaaq, then she becomes haraam to her first husband until she has married a second husband in a genuine marriage which is consummated. The Qur’aanic evidence for that is the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

“The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness…

And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband”

[al-Baqarah 2:229-230]

The last divorce refers to the third divorce, according to all the scholars.

The evidence from the Sunnah is the hadeeth narrated by ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr, according to which ‘Aa’ishah told him that the wife of Rifaa’ah al-Qurazi came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, Rifaa’ah divorced me thrice, then I was married to ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn al-Zubayr al-Qurazi, but he has nothing with him except something like this fringe. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Perhaps you want to go back to Rifaa’ah? No, (it is not possible), unless and until you enjoy the sexual relation with him (‘Abd al-Rahmaan), and he enjoys the sexual relation with you.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4856; Muslim, 2587) 

The phrase “divorced me three times” means that this was the divorce which meant that she was no longer married to him, which is the third talaaq. The Prophet’s words “until you enjoy the sexual relation with him (‘Abd al-Rahmaan), and he enjoys the sexual relation with you” refer to intercourse.

Al-Nawawi said: “This hadeeth indicates that the woman who has been divorced by a third talaaq is not permissible to the man who has divorced her until she has been married by another husband, who has intercourse with her then separates from her, and she completes her ‘iddah. Merely drawing up the marriage contract with her does not make her permissible to the first husband. This is the view of all the scholars among the Sahaabah, Taabi’een and those who came after them.

Sharh Muslim, 10/3

Taken from IslamQA

Smart Gifts (Hadith No. 2246)

Bismillah.

Hadith no. 2245 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.

Volume 3, Book 47, Number 747:
Narrated As-Sa’b bin Jaththama (radiallaahu `anhu):
An onager was presented to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) at the place called Al-Abwa’ or Waddan, but Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) rejected it. When the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) noticed the signs of sorrow on the giver’s face he said, “We have not rejected your gift, but we are in the state of Ihram.” (i.e. if we were not in a state of Ihram we would have accepted your gift.

Today’s Hadith:

Volume 3, Book 47, Number 748:
Narrated Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
The people used to look forward for the days of my (‘Aisha’s) turn to send gifts to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) in order to please him.

So everyone knew about his love for Aisha (radiallaahu `anhu) and they knew that he’d be the happiest with her.. why not add to that happiness to gain closeness to him, right? Talk about “smart” gifts.

Ah! Can’t wait to meet him and his family in Jannah. May Allah make it happen. <3

Intimacy of Marriage [Hadith of Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu)] (Hadith No. 1805)

Bismillah.

Hadith no. 1801 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 306:

Narrated Abu Hazim:

I heard Sahl bin Sad (radiallaahu `anhu) saying, “A woman brought a Burda (i.e. a square piece of cloth having edging). I asked, ‘Do you know what a Burda is?’ They replied in the affirmative and said, “It is a cloth sheet with woven margins.” Sahl (radiallaahu `anhu) went on, “She addressed the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and said, ‘I have woven it with my hands for you to wear.’ The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) took it as he was in need of it, and came to us wearing it as a waist sheet. One of us said, ‘O Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! Give it to me to wear.’ The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) agreed to give it to him. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sat with the people for a while and then returned (home), wrapped that waist sheet and sent it to him. The people said to that man, ‘You haven’t done well by asking him for it when you know that he never turns down anybody’s request.’ The man replied, ‘By Allah, I have not asked him for it except to use it as my shroud when I die.” Sahl (radiallaahu `anhu) added; “Later it (i.e. that sheet) was his shroud.”


Ahadith 1802 & 1803 (below) are repeats. Read the post here.

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 307:

Narrated Abu Hazim:

Some men came to Sahl bin Sad (radiallaahu `anhu) to ask him about the pulpit. He replied, “Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sent for a woman (Sahl named her) (this message): ‘Order your slave carpenter to make pieces of wood (i.e. a pulpit) for me so that I may sit on it while addressing the people.’ So, she ordered him to make it from the tamarisk of the forest. He brought it to her and she sent it to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) ordered it to be placed in the mosque: so, it was put and he sat on it.

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 308:

Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu):

An Ansari woman said to Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), “O Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! Shall I make something for you to sit on, as I have a slave who is a carpenter?” He replied, “If you wish.” So, she got a pulpit made for him. When it was Friday  the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sat on that pulpit. The date-palm stem near which the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to deliver his sermons cried so much so that it was about to burst. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) came down from the pulpit to the stem and embraced it and it started groaning like a child being persuaded to stop crying and then it stopped crying. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said,”It has cried because of (missing) what it use to hear of the religions knowledge.”


Hadith no. 1804 (below) is also a repeat. Read it here.

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 309:

Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):

Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) bought food grains from a Jew on credit and mortgaged his armor to him.


Intimacy of Marriage [Hadith of Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu)]

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 310:

Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu):

I was with the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) in a Ghazwa (Military Expedition) and my camel was slow and exhausted. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) came up to me and said, “O Jabir.” I replied, “Yes?” He said, “What is the matter with you?” I replied, “My camel is slow and tired, so I am left behind.” So, he got down and poked the camel with his stick and then ordered me to ride. I rode the camel and it became so fast that I had to hold it from going ahead of Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). He then asked me, have you got married?” I replied in the affirmative. He asked, “A virgin or a matron?” I replied, “I married a matron.” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “Why have you not married a virgin, so that you may play with her and she may play with you?” Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu) replied, “I have sisters (young in age) so I liked to marry a matron who could collect them all and comb their hair and look after them.” The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son).” Then he asked me, “Would you like to sell your camel?” I replied in the affirmative and the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) purchased it for one Uqiya of gold. Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) reached before me and I reached in the morning, and when I went to the mosque, I found him at the door of the mosque. He asked me, “Have you arrived just now?” I replied in the affirmative. He said, “Leave your camel and come into (the mosque) and pray two Rakat.” I entered and offered the prayer. He told Bilal (radiallaahu `anhu) to weigh and give me one Uqiya of gold. So Bilal (radiallaahu `anhu) weighed for me fairly and I went away. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) sent for me and I thought that he would return to me my camel which I hated more than anything else. But the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said to me, “Take your camel as well as its price.”

Every time I come across this Hadith, I can’t help but be more and more grateful to Allah and His Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) for giving us Islam and its knowledge. It is due to the frankness of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), and him opening up his private life that we know our bedroom etiquette. In other religions like Christianity, for example, it’s discouraged to even feel sexual desire. How unnatural and lame is that? :/

To understand this Hadith best, I advise you to go through this article by Yasir Qadhi, which is a summary of his online course (Like A Garment) that he offered a while ago. It is well-explained and direct, may Allah reward him for sharing it with us.

Why did Imam Bukhari include this hadith in the Book of Sales and Trade? Because it mentions selling of a camel. :)

One Cute Incident (Ahadith 1744 – 1745)

Bismillah.

Volume 3, Book 33, Number 249:

Narrated ‘Amra:

Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) said, “the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to practice Itikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan and I used to pitch a tent for him, and after offering the morning prayer, he used to enter the tent.” Hafsa (radiallaahu `anhaa) asked the permission of ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) to pitch a tent for her and she allowed her and she pitched her tent. When Zainab bint Jahsh (radiallaahu `anhaa) saw it, she pitched another tent. In the morning the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) noticed the tents. He said, ‘What is this?” He was told of the whole situation. Then the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, “Do you think that they intended to do righteousness by doing this?” He therefore abandoned the Itikaf in that month and practiced Itikaf for ten days in the month of Shawwal.”


Volume 3, Book 33, Number 250:

Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):

The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) intended to practice Itikaf and when he reached the place where he intended to perform Itikaf, he saw some tents, the tents of ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa), Hafsa (radiallaahu `anhaa) and Zainab (radiallaahu `anhaa). So, he said, “Do you consider that they intended to do righteousness by doing this?” And then he went away and did not perform Itikaf (in Ramadan) but performed it in the month of Shawwal for ten days.

Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) feared that the wives’ intentions might be inclined more towards pleasing him rather than pleasing Allah, so he abandoned I`tikaaf to discourage such behavior. Aren’t wives (Mothers of the Believers, and wives in general) so cute? :)

Intimacy during Fasting (Ahadith 1644 – 1648)

Bismillah.

Volume 3, Book 31, Number 149:

Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):

The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to kiss and embrace (his wives) while he was fasting, and he had more power to control his desires than any of you. Said Jabir, “The person who gets discharge after casting a look (on his wife) should complete his fast.”


Volume 3, Book 31, Number 150:

Narrated Hisham’s father:

Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) said, “Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to kiss some of his wives while he was fasting,” and then she smiled.


Volume 3, Book 31, Number 151:

Narrated Zainab (daughter of Um Salama) (radiallaahu `anhaa) that her mother said, “While I was (lying) with Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) underneath a woolen sheet, I got the menstruation, and then slipped away and put on the clothes (which I used to wear) in menses. He asked, “What is the matter? Did you get your menses?” I replied in the affirmative and then entered underneath that woolen sheet. I and Allah’s Apostle used to take a bath from one water pot and he used to kiss me while he was fasting.”


Volume 3, Book 31, Number 152:

Narrated ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):

(At times) in Ramadan the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to take a bath in the morning not because of a wet dream and would continue his fast.


Volume 3, Book 31, Number 153:

Narrated Abu Bakr bin ‘Abdur-Rahman:

My father and I went to ‘Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) and she said, “I testify that Allah’s Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) at times used to get up in the morning in a state of Janaba from sexual intercourse, not from a wet dream and then he would fast that day.” Then he went to Um Salama (radiallaahu `anhaa) and she also narrated a similar thing.

The Muslim has to protect his fast from things that may invalidate it, and he has to seek reward by giving up his desires for food, drink and intercourse, as Allaah says in the hadeeth qudsi concerning the virtues of fasting: “He gives up his food, his drink and his physical desires for My sake.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Sawm, 1761). But if he can control himself and not slip into that which would cause his fast to be invalidated, by the emission of maniy (semen) or by having intercourse, or would make his fast imperfect by the emission of madhiy (prostatic fluid), then it is permissible for him to embrace his wife in this case, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to fondle ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) but he used to control his desire.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz said:

A man may kiss, embrace and touch his wife, without having intercourse, when he is fasting. This is permissible and there is nothing wrong with it, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to kiss and touch his wives when he was fasting. But if there is the fear that he may do something that Allaah has forbidden because his desire is aroused quickly, then it is makrooh for him to do that. If he ejaculates he still should not eat or drink for the rest of the day, and he has to make up the fast, but he does not have to offer kafaarah (expiation) according to the majority of the scholars. But madhiy (prostatic fluid) does not invalidate the fast, according to the more correct of the two scholarly views, because the basic principle is that the fast remains valid, and because it is too difficult to avoid. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, part 4, p. 202

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